Why Your Best Friend’s Approval Shouldn’t Be a Dealbreaker on Your Dating Profile

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Ladies, we need to talk about something that’s getting in the way of your dating success: your best friend. Or more specifically, the insistence on your dating profile that “if my best friend doesn’t approve of you, we can’t date.” Now, don’t get me wrong, friends are fabulous—they’re your confidants, your cheerleaders, your ride-or-die squad. But let’s get real for a second: this isn’t junior high anymore.

Imagine you’re scrolling through profiles on a dating app, and you see a guy who looks promising. Great smile, loves dogs, has a stable job. You swipe right. Now imagine him reading your profile, only to see that he’s got to pass the best friend test. Suddenly, he’s wondering if he’s applying for a job where your BFF is the hiring manager.

Here’s the thing: potential matches are not swiping to date your best friend. Unless, of course, you’re into that ménage à trois situation, which, let’s be honest, is a surefire way to ruin any potential relationship faster than you can say “awkward third wheel.”

It’s natural to value your friends’ opinions—they’ve been with you through thick and thin, and their perspective can be valuable. But, there’s a line between seeking advice and outsourcing your entire love life. Remember, you’re an adult now. It’s your life, your relationship, and your choice.

No guy wants to date someone who can’t make decisions without a committee meeting. Independence and confidence are attractive. When it comes to moments of intimacy or simple relationship-building, the last thing he wants is the looming shadow of your BFF’s judgment. It’s not that he dislikes your friend (he’s never met her!), but he’s here for you, not to jump through social hoops.

When a potential match is swiping on your profile, he’s interested in getting to know you. Your friends are fantastic, but they’re not part of the initial attraction. They’re there to support you and offer guidance, not to hold your hand through every step of your romantic journey.

Instead of putting your BFF in charge of your love life, why not trust your own judgment? If things get serious, your friend’s opinion will naturally become relevant—after all, friends do meet partners eventually. But leading with a requirement for their approval is like putting up a sign that says, “Independent Thought Not Included.”

So, how do you craft a profile that screams “I’m an adult and I make my own decisions”? Here are some tips:

1. Highlight Your Interests: Share what you love and what you’re passionate about. This is about you, remember?
2. Show Confidence: Confidence is magnetic. Mention your strengths and what makes you unique.
3. Be Clear About What You Want: Without sounding like a job listing, be clear about what you’re looking for in a partner. This is about finding a match for you, not your friend.

Your best friend is amazing, but she doesn’t need to be the gatekeeper of your love life. By focusing on your own preferences and decisions, you open the door to relationships that are built on mutual attraction and genuine connection, rather than third-party approval.

So, ladies, let’s leave the junior high dynamics behind. Trust yourself, make your own decisions, and swipe right on someone who’s interested in dating you—not your entourage.