Ladies, Reality Check: All That and A Bag Of Chips?

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Ladies, it’s time for a reality check! You’re on a dating app for a reason: you’re single, separated, divorced, or somewhere in between. Whether you’re seeking a long-term partner, a short-term fling, or something in between, let’s cut to the chase and make your online dating experience a bit more enjoyable. It’s time to stop using your limited bio characters to go on a diatribe, insulting every potential suitor before you even get a chance to talk to them.

Oh, you cannot be this, you must have that, you have to conform to these standards. “I don’t want a hookup,” “I expect XYZ,” “no players,” “must have a 401(k) and a dog named Max.” The list goes on and on. There’s a reason you’re still single when you’re giving a list of demands longer than a grocery receipt. Let’s be honest, as much as men might seem like they’ll sleep with anything that has a pulse, not every man wants to hook up with you. And be happy that somebody wants to hook up with you at all!

It’s time to stop the relentless man-bashing and negativity you’re throwing out into the universe. If your bio reads like a collection of red flags, there’s no surprise that you’re not finding Mr. Right. And if you find yourself writing, “I’ve been on here so long,” or “I’m back at it and can’t find a good man,” take a moment to ask yourself, “Gee, I wonder why?” Attitude is everything, and nobody wants to be with someone who has more attitude than gratitude.

No one likes a self-righteous woman who thinks she’s God’s gift to men when she might actually be more like moldy cheese. I know it’s not the politically correct thing to say, but sometimes, we all need a reality check. So, if you’re genuinely looking for love or companionship, cut the negativity. Ditch the demands, the complaints, and the sarcasm. Embrace a more positive approach.

And if you’re still not finding what you’re looking for, maybe try a different venue. Go to a church group, ask your grandma to set you up with someone from her local knitting circle. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but it’s a different kind of reality check. Save the righteous indignation for another day.

Remember the spirit of why you’re on these dating apps. You’re there to meet new people, to explore potential relationships, and maybe even to have some fun along the way. So, lighten up, enjoy the process, and cut the self-indulgent whining. You’re on a dating app for a reason, so make it a positive one!