How to Not Scare Off Every Potential Date: A Guide for Opinionated Women

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Alright ladies, gather ’round! It’s time to get real about those dating profiles. If your bio reads like a warning label, it’s time for a makeover. We get it, you’re strong, independent, and can probably take down a linebacker if need be. But there’s a fine line between showing confidence and making potential dates wonder if they need a helmet.

Imagine this: you’re swiping through profiles, and you come across one that says, “I’m super opinionated, strong-minded, can be stubborn, and have no problem defending myself physically if needed.” Cue the horror movie soundtrack. Nothing says “Don’t swipe” quite like the mental image of a first date ending in a roundhouse kick to the face.

Here are a few tips to keep your profile from sounding like a cage match promo:

Instead of coming off like a UFC fighter, aim for a confident conversationalist. Swap out “I’m super opinionated, strong-minded, can be stubborn, and have no problem defending myself physically if needed” for something like “I love a good debate and enjoy standing up for what I believe in.” You’re still showing off your passion, but without the threat of physical harm. Let’s save the wrestling moves for the gym, not the first date.

Stubbornness can be rebranded too. Instead of “stubborn as a mule,” try “determined and driven.” We’re all for sticking to your guns, but nobody wants to date a brick wall. Being driven shows you have goals and ambition. Plus, “determined” sounds way sexier than “I won’t change my mind even if you offer me cake.”

Drop the macho act. If your profile mentions having no problem defending yourself physically, swap it for “confident and capable in any situation.” Unless you’re applying for a bodyguard position, let’s keep the physical defense tactics out of the dating profile. Confidence is attractive; threats of violence, not so much.

We all know the saying about opinions, right? Let’s not remind people of it in your profile. Replace “super opinionated” with “always up for a lively discussion and open to new perspectives.” Here’s the magic formula: show you’re passionate without coming across as confrontational. A lively discussion is fun; a heated argument over pineapple on pizza? Not so much.

If you feel the need to highlight your ability to defend yourself, try a softer approach. Instead of “will smack you if you say something I don’t like,” opt for “not afraid to speak my mind and stand up for myself.” We’re sure you’ve got a mean right hook, but let’s not advertise that. Showcasing your ability to speak your mind is a green flag; advertising your readiness to smack someone, not so much.

Remember, ladies, the goal is to attract potential dates, not to have them dialing 911 in advance. By tweaking your profile, you can showcase your strengths without coming off like you’re ready to brawl. Confidence is key, but so is approachability. Now, go forth and swipe right without scaring off every suitor in sight!